Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Splish Splash Casey's Takin' a Bath.... in the Morn, and it's Good!



A marvelous thing has occurred at our house on school mornings! It has become pleasant! Yes, pleasant! No more screaming, no more having to tell him 45 times to come and eat. No more boy sitting and kicking the wall under the breakfast bar singing not so sweetly "Little little assholes!"....ahhhh, yes, more pleasant.

It all started one morning after being completely exhausted the night before, and not having the drive to mess with a whole shower thing. I decided a shower for Casey in the morning wouldn't be the end of the world (although the thought of the days bodily grossness on his sheets was on my mind). And so, that morning, I told him to get in the shower after a nights rest and strength had been restored. He asked if he could take a bath and since I was still fiddling around with my morning primping, I said okay. He burst into the bathroom, took off his jammies and hopped in before the tub was full. The rest of the morning went smoothly. And I didn't connect anything, thinking it was just one of those rare and lucky days that everything wasn't a big clusterf^&*.

So, the next morning, despite a shower the night before (still thinking about the days grime, despite that mornings bathing), he actually requested another bath. Finding it odd, I allowed for it, and again, a pleasant morning ensued.

This pleasantness isn't just quiet, this is beyond that. I can actually get the boy out of bed with the sound of the bath water running and a silly song about Prince Casey's bath being drawn. He leaps out of bed, strips and sits calmly in the tub for a good 20 minutes. This is awesome, because before, getting him up was quite a challenge, with a lot of threats and cussing on both our parts.

Oddly, this bath routine has now blossomed into a whole routine, and one that needs no prompting. He gets out, dresses himself (something I was helping him way too much with pre morning bath because we were usually running late), and then he makes his way to the kitchen to nibble on some breakfast. Again, NO PROMPTING! This is huge! On top of all that, his teacher has mentioned he has had excellent days, and getting him to get ready for the bus and transitioning is no big deal anymore.

Why and how does a simple bath realign the planets and make pigs fly? Why did it take so frickin long for this to happen? Why, when I take showers every morning, had it not occurred to me that this might be good for Casey as well? Who the hell knows... trial and error, trial and error.

Whatever, it's workin' now, clean sheets be damned!

3 comments:

Rebecca said...

That is an awesome discovery. Must be a sensory thing, right? Being surrounded by water first thing in the morning would be very calming and comforting for anyone, I would think, but especially for someone who has sensory sensitivities. Don't fret about taking this long to figure it out. For all you know the bath wouldn't have had the same effect last year. And I wouldn't worry about those dirty sheets, as Bill changes them daily, doesn't he? ;-)

Bobbi said...

Thats great. You must have to get up pretty early to have time to give him a bath. Parker would love that. I laughed out loud when you wrote what he sings in the morning. Sometimes Parker sings, "Shake your boobies" instead of booty, lol.

mama edge said...

Must be something in the water, 'cuz Taz also started showering in the morning recently, ending THIRTEEN YEARS of morning fights and having mommy dress him and shovel food into his still-sleeping mouth. Now he's alert, dresses himself and eats breakfast every day.

Why did it take so long? Meh. I'm just glad we figured it out before he became too heavy for me to half-carry up the stairs.